You know, because I bite it a lot.
I’m a very opinionated person. This is not a shocking secret by any means. In fact, many people who know me have made the comment that I just say whatever pops into my mind.
If I said everything that popped into my mind, I’d be a lonely gal. No friends, ostracized family–you get the picture.
When I was younger, I had the narcissistic notion that everyone needed to hear my opinion. I don’t know what it is–is it arrogance? I don’t consider myself an arrogant person, but for some reason, it seems to fit. No matter what subject came up, I had to express my opinion. Politics, religion, local issues, family problems, you name it.
Times have changed, and so have I.
Now, let’s not get carried away. I am still a very opinionated person. Like I’ve said before, I have strong opinions about almost everything. Some things I will still climb up on my soapbox for–education, for example. I use this blog to vent a lot of my opinions, so they don’t back up on me and cause some sort of emotion explosion.
But here’s the thing–even though I am entitled to my opinions, just like you are, that doesn’t give me license to dump them on any one, any time. I’m not a profound person. The most profound thought I’m likely to come up with will probably have something to do with laundry. But my son and I were having a conversation the other day, and out of the blue I made the following statement: “People are more concerned about being right than doing right.” My son said, “Wow, deep thought, Mom.”
And it was. It is.
We love to share our opinion. Our whole society is based on the freedom of speech, and I love freedom of speech. But that doesn’t give us the right to trample others. Sometimes, you sit there, and someone is talking about something, and all you can think is, “What an idiot!” Why can’t it stop there? Fine, you don’t agree with them, and you might even think they are totally ignorant for thinking the way they do, but is it worth it to argue with them? What are you going to gain? What is it worth to you just to express your opinion? If you are in front of Congress, fine, but is arguing with your mom or dad or your friends really going to make a difference?
It’s easy to get on a soap box. Trust me, I know. It’s easy to tell people your opinion. It’s not so easy to shut up and put up. If I think education needs reformed, then instead of putting it on this blog, or posting passive/aggressive Facebook rants, I should do something about it. Go to board meetings, write letters, whatever. That’s just one example. I don’t know what it is that is important to you, but why not become an activist instead of a publicist? Try living your opinions–that’s the best to show people what they are. And when you are faced with the idiot that tries to get you to argue?
Gargling with salt water will help that sore tongue.