As I sit here in my faithful, if slightly sagging recliner tonight, I am, for the moment, without my husband.
Where is he? At the bar? Working third shift? Coon hunting?
He’s currently at the scene of two-car MVA. That’s motor vehicle accident to the uninitiated.
My husband is part of our local volunteer fire department. He, and his brothers and sisters, were all just sitting at home a few minutes ago, some probably in bed, when that shrill sound ripped through the evening. The volunteer firefighter’s pager–a cold, unfeeling thing that dictates much of our lives.
As a teenager, I sometimes held volunteer firefighters in disdain. Now, as VFF wife, I sometimes catch little snide comment and rolled eyes from people. I know what they are thinking. They have envisioned the Barney Fife types who just like strutting around with their pagers and giving people orders. I guess there are some of those out there, just as there are always bad apples in every basket.
But what I have found is that these are hard-working, courageous men and women who voluntarily give up time away from their families to help others.
My husband spent days away from home while he was getting his certification. He got further trained to drive the engines, because he is a naturally talented big truck driver. He trains every Monday evening with his Station. Mostly, though, he is always ready to literally run out the door and to the rescue of people in need. It might be late in evening, like now, or it might be one or two in the morning. Sometimes he’s back in an hour–sometimes not for five or six.
Sometimes he has to comfort people who are afraid, and hurt, and maybe even dying, all while acting as though he himself is not afraid.
He has been “toned out” during cookouts, birthday parties, holidays and family gatherings. He has missed his dinner and eaten a bowl of cereal, or maybe nothing at all because he was too exhausted to eat.
He has made lifelong friends, and so have I. He has had struggles and frustrations and some scary situations, which he always downplays to me because he knows I worry. He trusts his brothers and sisters with his life, and holds their lives in his hands.
So, take a minute to be thankful that there are men and women out there like my husband, who don’t do what they do because they are getting paid, or getting glory, or really even getting any recognition at all. It’s easy to dismiss a volunteer firefighter because he’s the same guy you see mowing his lawn every week, or shopping in Walmart. But make no mistake–he’s a hero.
And this one here, he’s mine.